Question by John: is this normal or unusually normal or acceptable?
- I like to study alone (because usually I am behind and I would like to catch up and only way to do it is by being alone ) …..
Even at Work – when everyone has time to go have a 15 minute break for cakes and lunch time – i like to stay in my cube and get my work done ( again !! because i feel that i am very behind with my tasks )…i do go on lunch but its usually i “join” the friends/collegues after wards (they are usually halfway done when i join ) ….and I have never joined my collegues after work for a snack or drink ….cuz it just doesn’t work out …
In GYM – i like to do it ALONE – as in without my friends closely watching me …it is not a big deal anymore …but sometimes i write down my goals and which work out i want to do ….and friends will be like …”What !! you are actually following the plan !!! ” ?? what a loser ” …. or sometimes they are like …. ” Are you Really going to follow this plan “??”
…. Unfortunately they are RIGHT – i do not follow plans but .. i do make lot of plans …weather its GYM, SCHOOL or WORK …. – and I tend to find myself WORKING, STUDYING or working out alone ..becuz my pace (sometimes pace is SLOW and sometimes my pace is FAST )…is so different …. if i am working out alone … i will be sure to spend enough time to feel good as oppose to if i am with someone else …i make sure that ” I stay with him/her” …so do it a little differently ..
IS there somethign wrong with this picture ??? anything wrong with me or …do I just like to have my space and being alone ??
can i change something here ??
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Answer by Kyle
Maybe you have Aspergers.
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Normal, if not acceptable. It’s normal for me anyway. I generally feel like other people are either just rushing things or procrastinating on purpose. It seems other people lack dedication sometimes, and I’d rather not let them drag me down with them.
I always study alone. How can anyone possibly study with a group? Other people are distractions. As for work, I do take my breaks like anyone else, but I don’t take the “extra” breaks that most of them usually like to take. I figure I’m getting paid to do a job and I’m going to do it. The rest of them are just watching the clock and waiting to go home. As for the gym, I can work out alone or with other people. It doesn’t really matter. But I don’t always go with their pace. It can be helpful though, working out with other people, especially ones who are dedicated to the workout. It forces me to work out longer than I normally would have.
unusually normal;;
the first right step is to admit that there is something wrong.. maybe you think is right..but …
try to social the people
maybe u like to do everything alone ….
i like to do my work and study alone . but i try to spend other time with my friends ..
try to do other activities with a group
u have friends try to enjoy ur time with them …
it will be a beautiful time if u just try …..
good luck..
I think you need to find a happy medium and not be so rigid in your plans and routines. You mention that you don’t appear in the lunchroom until your co-workers are just about done eating – that’s not a coincidence. So what if your work has to wait 15 extra minutes? Not everyone does things the same way you do, and that’s okay to an extent – just don’t withdraw yourself from everyone so often that after awhile they forget you’re there…that’s no way to live. If you’re working out, you work out at a different pace when others are there, but the important thing is that you’re still working out – so what if it’s a little different each time? It seems you aren’t happy with the patterns you are setting for yourself – it’s not that there’s necessarily something “wrong” with you – you just need to start being more flexible. If that is not possible, then consulting your doctor might not be a bad idea.